View Full Version : Not a thread I wanted to post..

05-10-2007, 10:19 PM
Many of you, especially the old school members, know Matt and Shanna personally. For you newer guys, Matt is theredbarron006, a fellow moderator here on SOC, and Shanna is his wife. Many of us have spent late nights talking to them both in the KUSA chat on AIM. It pains me to be the one to inform you guys that today, Shanna was diagnosed with breast cancer. As of now, they don't know many details besides the diagnosis.

Shanna has requested not to have prayers, though many of you will still pray I'm sure. Just keep their whole family in your thoughts and prayers as they go through one of the hardest times any family could go through. Matt didn't request for this thread to be posted, though he did say it was fine to let you all know. Most likely, he will not be around much anymore due to the circumstances, so leave some words of encouragement and know that if he doesn't reply he will have seen them, along with Shanna.


05-10-2007, 10:22 PM
I was trying really hard but can't keep the tears back. Very sad day, but we must think positive. Shanna is a tough girl, if anybody can beat cancer its her. Afterall, she is the only person Matt fears.

Anything you guys need Matt, you know I'm here.

05-10-2007, 10:31 PM
Matt and Shanna know I love em both. I'm here for both of you.

05-10-2007, 10:36 PM
my mom was recently diagnosed with breast cancer also. i'm with you guys

05-11-2007, 03:04 AM
I did say a prayer and wish them the best. I have seen breast cancer in our family and it's beatable. Attitude is a major factor and I hope they all stay strong. Good luck and best wishes.

05-11-2007, 04:32 AM
Shanna- Keep your head up, you are one strong woman and will get through this.

Matt- You keep your head up too, I know this type of thing can be hard.

Both of you please know we are here for you and if you need ANYTHING please let us know.

For those of you that want to donate to the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation, here is a link: http://cms.komen.org/komen/index.htm

05-11-2007, 04:56 AM
Wow! My thoughts are with you guys right now. What more can I say than Ditto to all the above sentiments...

Team Ramrod
05-11-2007, 05:02 AM
Wow, im so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and yours. I know you too are fighters and you CAN beat this.

05-11-2007, 05:03 AM
All of our thoughts are with you both......
We are here for you and your family...anything, anytime.

05-11-2007, 08:33 AM
:praying::praying::praying: The prayers have been sent. Just like what everyone else said, this CAN and WILL be beat by you guys! You all are in my thoughts and prayers. :praying::praying::praying:

05-11-2007, 09:15 AM
I'm going to tell a story, and this is mainly for Matt, Shanna and their family.

I know this kid, known him for a long time now. When he was born, he was blue and not breathing. Which isn't too unusually but this prove to be a sign of worse times to come. The doctor smacked him on the butt a couple times and he began breathing. After that everything seemed to be normal and the new parents brought their first born son home. Although everything about him appeared to be okay, there were little things that concerned the parents. Little things, he had trouble gaining weight, had recurrent bronchial infections and often times was very bloated, his parents jokingly called him their "Ethiopian Baby". The joke would be very short lived though. When he was about 20 months old, he was admitted to the hospital for pneumonia and failure to thrive. He was in really bad shape and his mother said he looked gray and feared the worst. He was put into an isolation tent and the only way his parents could even touch him was to suit up with gowns, masks, gloves and shoe covers. Shortly after being admitted to the hospital and after lots of tests the doctor gave the family his diagnosis. Cystic Fibrosis. The doctor explained CF to the family then gave them the most devastating news parents can ever receive. "CF is a terminal illness and your son is lucky to still be alive. We, however, don't think that he will live much longer. If he makes it out of the hospital, which we doubt, and stays relatively healthy, he'll be lucky to see the age of 5. Only thing we can really do is make him comfortable."

As you can guess the parents died inside. This news almost destroyed their marriage and the rest of their life. After being hospitalized for 3 months their son was released and they took him home. Right then, when the mother carried her son to the car, she decided his fate was not sealed yet and she told her husband, she was not giving up. He agreed and they decided to do whatever it took to prove the doctor wrong. Find new doctors, research meds, get second, third and fourth opinions, whatever it took. They didn't have any money, just pure will and determination. They used all the resources they had and did whatever it took to get their son the best care possible.

A couple years later, on the front page of their local paper read "5 year old CF Patient Takes on CF Foundation's Bike-A-Thon". Under the headlines was a picture of their son, on his bike, smiling and waving to the camera.

I'm sure by now if you know anything about me, this story is about me. I'm almost 28 now and although I can't do the 20 mile Bike-A-Thon that I did when I was 5, I'm still here. I proved everybody wrong. My parents proved everybody wrong.

Never give up hope. Take what the doctors say with a grain of salt. Although they can tell you what normally happens, there is never a guarantee, and they can't tell you what is definitely going to happen. Your attitude plays such a huge roll its amazing what you can will your body to do. I hope that my story will inspire and help. Good luck and I will be thinking of you guys.

05-11-2007, 03:31 PM
Thanks all, we had some more tests today, I am in the waiting room now, waiting on the results, I will keep you all posted, and thank you very much for the words of encouragement it really means a lot to both of us.

Josh I will catch you on AIM later tonight, Dan I will get back to you on AIM as well concerning what you sent me, I will be back online tonight with any hope.

05-11-2007, 03:46 PM
...this will probably be the hardest post ive ever made. While reading this i truely became speechless. For many who know me know that i dont really become speechless and usually talk and ramble forever with out stopping. But it really saddend me to hear this news. Shanna and Matt are some of the nicest people i have ever met. If you ever needed anything or just needed to talk They would of listened. Thats just the type of people they are and shows there character they are just amazing people.
But at the same time they are strong people. Things that they have endured and just the way they are they will get through this. Its not even a question in my mind if they will or if they wont get through it they WILL...not a doubt in my mind...and im going to end this here so i dont start crying...

05-11-2007, 05:26 PM
Matt, i saw the thread and i had to say something...
I know i dont know Shanna very well but I know she is an incredible person from talking to her the few night i have online in the chat. I know you were both there with open arms when Tim had his struggles.. I know that you were always there for anyone, whether or not you knew them personally, or just over the forums.

when i read this i became speechless, just like mike. I know your story, and how you became successful...and i know that this will just be another trouble that you will overcome. I said a prayer for you and your family, and i will continue to.

I dont know if your regilious or not, or anyone on the forums...but the Bible says "I can do all things through christ, who strengthens me"...


If you ever need to talk to anyone...im online....

05-11-2007, 08:09 PM
now i know i don't know you guys as well as most of the people in this thread, but i feel i still need to comment. its amazing how attached you can become to people you've never even met. Matt and Shanna, what can i say, you two are simply amazing people. this forum would never be the same without you two. when i read this thread, i could feel my heart sink. i cant believe i was reading such horrible news about such an amazing family. i am not a religious person, but i can assure you you will be in my thoughts.

Shanna, we all know you can beat this thing. after all of Matt's shenanigans, this will be a cakewalk!

05-11-2007, 08:19 PM
man that really sucks, in my thoughts and prayers

05-11-2007, 09:23 PM
It's beatable! You can do it! Like stated before, attitude is a major factor.

My French teacher is living proof that it can be beaten. Since I'm pretty much agnostic now, my thoughts are with you. You guys can and will get through this. I know it.

05-12-2007, 01:04 PM
i'm sorry to hear that. i'll be praying for her and your family

05-13-2007, 12:36 PM
I was really sad to read this, you guys are great. I hope everything works out for you guys.

05-13-2007, 10:37 PM
You know how I feel already Matt, but I will say it again: Shanna will get through this, and when times are tough and you need someone to talk to, I'm here for you.

Oh, and Shanna, I know you're reading this, so I'll say it here: You may decline my prayers, but you aren't getting away from my best wishes and thoughts. :) Talk to me when you can, but until then, much love to both of you!

05-14-2007, 02:22 AM
wow, i really dont know what to say, other than that we'll be there for you guys

05-14-2007, 02:20 PM
Ok, sorry it took me so long to get you guys an update. I am going to spare all of you technical terms as to not confuse myself, if you would like to discuss it further please contact my email or try to get me on AIM, email goes to my phone as well so that would be the best way of getting to me.

We went to a discussion with 3 radiologists and a cancer specialist, they more or less told us that Shanna would have to undergo treatments every day tracking progress along the way, they also let us know that they are confident that everything will go well, although like they stated before it has already traveled deeper into her system so it will be a long hard road for us.

Thank you all for your support, it really means a lot to Shanna myself and our kids.

05-14-2007, 03:11 PM
Thanks for the update Barron...you all are in my thoughts.

05-14-2007, 04:36 PM
Much love to both of you. My mother is a breast cancer survivor and I know how tough it was for her to get through it. Keep a good attitude and you will get through it.

05-14-2007, 11:07 PM
It's good to hear that the outlook isn't grim, although it will be a fight.

Still in my thoughts and prayers until everything is better..good luck.

05-14-2007, 11:59 PM
good luck you guys
just remember to stay strong

VS3 Sniper
05-15-2007, 12:44 AM
I will keep u guys in my thoughts. Try to keep a good outlook and remember all things happen for a greater good. I am sure she will make a full recovery. My grandma is a cancer survivor and I asked her if she had any advice for u guys and she said just take it one day at a time. I will be praying for both of u.

05-15-2007, 09:04 PM
Wow Barron and Shanna...I don't know what to say. I'll respect her wishes for her...but will keep you in my thoughts and hopes for a healthy recovery.

Have peace.


05-16-2007, 09:40 PM
First treatment today, Shanna reacted to it pretty hard, she has been faint all day, and has passed out a few times, trying to keep her hydrated seems to be difficult although she has drank about half a gallon of water today she is still showing dehydration, but she is feeling better outside of a extreme headache right now, tomorrow we go in for another form of treatment, and friday it is the same thing as it was today, the Dr. says that the second treatment (friday) will be much easier as her body wont be as pissed off at her. and tomorrows treatment should not be painful at all.

05-16-2007, 10:02 PM
First treatment today, Shanna reacted to it pretty hard, she has been faint all day, and has passed out a few times, trying to keep her hydrated seems to be difficult although she has drank about half a gallon of water today she is still showing dehydration, but she is feeling better outside of a extreme headache right now, tomorrow we go in for another form of treatment, and friday it is the same thing as it was today, the Dr. says that the second treatment (friday) will be much easier as her body wont be as pissed off at her. and tomorrows treatment should not be painful at all.

Thanks for the update. Still in my thoughts and prayers.

05-16-2007, 10:08 PM
Good luck. The beginning of any treatment is tough on the body and it always seems you get worse before you get better. Its a shock to the body, especially chemo and radiation. Things will get better and as hard as it may be tell her to hang in there. We are all sending her our love and strength.

05-16-2007, 10:11 PM
:yeahthat: Thanks for the update Matt; send Shanna my love for me. Keep strong, brother. It will be hard until you're out of the woods, and then you're scot free.

05-17-2007, 05:52 AM
Not Praying is not an option.

05-17-2007, 06:21 AM
Thanks for the update buddy.

Get me that info I needed when you get a chance. My checkbook is open and ready.

05-18-2007, 05:53 AM
We are ready for round 2, Shanna is a bit nervous but we are both confident that this treatment will not be any worse than the first one, yesterdays treatments went fine, no worries at all, she was a little sick to her stomach afterwards but that is about all as far as side effects. Thank you all for your thoughts and your kind words, it really means a lot to us.

Dan, I need to talk to you on AIM sometime concerning what we discussed.

05-18-2007, 07:09 AM
Good luck today! Hoping it'll go over better than last time.

Glad to hear yesterday's treatment went so well.

05-18-2007, 08:41 AM
You all have my prayers.

05-22-2007, 07:56 PM
She had a hard time with treatments today, they are really starting to wear her out. But we are keeping our heads high, or at least I am while she is sleeping.

05-22-2007, 08:00 PM
You have to stay the rock. She will look for you for strength. If you need us we are here for you. As you know. With me you and your darling wife will be prayed for.

05-22-2007, 08:09 PM
You have to stay the rock. She will look for you for strength. If you need us we are here for you. As you know.
All our thoughts are you...

05-22-2007, 08:15 PM
You know the deal buddy... Hit me up for anything!!!!!

05-22-2007, 11:49 PM
Dre said it best. :) Much love to both of you!

05-24-2007, 10:51 AM
wow... i dont know what to say. youll both be in my thoughts. gl on the treatment, and i hope it all works out.

05-26-2007, 05:49 PM
Well I am around for an update I guess...

Things are going, she is really having a hard time, spending as much time with family as possible but all is starting to look up, the treatments are starting to take full effect so sickness and fatigue are really setting in, we went ahead and cut her hair before her first treatment, so she could donate it to have a wig made out of it, this is really a temporary thing she plans to wear a wig just until her hair grows back... Thank you all for your thoughts and everything, it has really helped a good bit knowing that she has touched so many peoples lives and none of you have met her at all, it really means a lot to us. Thank you.

05-26-2007, 06:04 PM
Thoughts and prayers for both of you, stay strong. Thanks, for letting us know how things are going, you guys need anything, just reach out we're here.

05-26-2007, 07:43 PM
Tell Shanna I will shave my head and send her my hair if she wants.

Keep those chins up!!!

05-26-2007, 09:44 PM
I will shave my head as well for her. As for sending her my hair, there isn't much, she might get an eye brow out of it.

Tell her keep her head up, she is in all our thoughts.

06-06-2007, 09:35 PM
Any updates, Matt? Just checkin' in with ya, we haven't heard from you in a while. Everything going ok?